Life is always moving.
It’s always changing, evolving, and sometimes the changes that occur we embrace with open arms: like falling in love, getting married, or traveling to new places. But then there are times when we experience change that doesn’t feel so awesome: being let go from a job, divorce, a breakup, or financial troubles.
When we have to experience the curveballs of life, we become paralyzed with fear and start to feel like failures.
Failure has to be one of the most crippling things we experience.
We feel it in our bones and in our soul center. It’s realizing that everything you dreamed of either didn’t manifest or what you’ve tried so hard to accomplish resulted in a failed attempt. It’s judging ourselves, comparing ourselves, and thinking that we’re not good enough.
It’s not the best feeling in the world. But I’m here one thing about failure you probably didn’t know about:
Failure isn’t a bad thing!
For years, I was a dedicated over-achiever. I had to make sure that I completed my goals to the T and that I would have a list of accomplishments showing how much I’ve improved. However the older I became, the more goals I set for myself and the more life started to take its crazy turns.
It took a while for me to realize that every single failure that has happened in my life was something that I needed.
Every failed attempt or goal that get accomplished was molding me to become a better human. And it’s because of those failed attempts that I’m here right now writing this to you. We need failure because failure is actually a gift.
Here are three things on why failure is a gift and how it can shape your life for the better:
#1 Failure calms the ego.
In a world of instant gratification, we naturally assume things should be given to us without any or little effort.
When renowned motivational speaker Simon Sinek was asked about goal achievement in today’s technological world, he responded: “Everything you want you can have instantaneously. Everything you want is instant gratification EXCEPT job satisfaction and strength of relationships. There ain’t no app for that.”
Failure tells the ego that if you want something that really matters to you, you have to earn it. You have to work for it and you have to understand that things take time. Failure straightens out the ego and asks us to be patient which is a quality we all need.
#2 Failure is your personal teacher.
Here’s the truth about going for things you desire:
When you try something new for the first time – it’s not gonna be perfect.
When we fail at something, we automatically assume that it’s the end. Instead of bringing negative emotion to failure, use it as a learning lesson. We can view our failure as something we need to learn from. Failure better prepares you for the next time around.
Find the lessons in what happened and it will help you grow thick skin for the world around you. Failure is there to teach us how to be resilient.
#3 Failure means that you’re growing.
This really resonates with me. There are times where we put so much blame ourselves because whenever we fail, we automatically think that we’ve gone a step down in life. But what if it was actually the opposite?
Trying new things or doing something that we desire requires courage. It requires us to trust that everything will work out which means when it doesn’t it can hurt more. But what failure offers us if the ability to look at ourselves and take pride in the fact that we tried! That we got out of our comfort zone.
Failure helps us evolve into better people. It gives us the experience and knowledge we need to go through the world.
I’m not gonna lie. The feeling when you fail at something does suck.
There will be days where everything is going incredibly wrong and you have no idea what you’re doing. And it’s perfectly fine to vent out your frustration and cry because hey, you’re human!
But as long as you see failure as growth, as a teacher, and as something to help you become better you can keep going for what you desire without feeling depressed. Instead, you can look at your failed attempts and see how much you’ve lived and kept going.
Easier said than done but the more you practice this the better it will be.
So you haven’t done what you set out to do or feel like you are failing in your dreams – keep your chin up. The best is yet to come.
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Til next time,