When things fall apart, there’s always a reason why.
Life has a way of throwing curve balls when we least expect it. When this happens, we stop everything and fix the situation before getting back to our daily routine. However when it comes to life interrupting our health and fitness, that’s a different story. Out of curiosity, I asked a few people why they never achieved their fitness goals.
Most of the responses were practical, like an injury or illness. But the one excuse that was repeated and stuck with me the most was this one:
“I stopped because this person wouldn’t let me.”
A fitness/health goal is a change in lifestyle. You’re stripping away all the bad habits and making space for new ones. For example, instead of ordering take-out, you cook your own meals. Or instead of going to happy hour every night, you go to the gym instead. These are big lifestyle changes and believe it or not, some people might not like it.
We all know that friend or family member who’ll comment on the changes you’re making. Some will actually want you to stop and join them in their habits. You can tell when they say things like:
“Come on, skip the gym and have a drink with me.”
“We’re going out clubbing so come with us!”
“Stop working out all the time and just have some fun!”
When we hear our loved ones say this, what do we do? We drop what had planned and join them for fear of missing out. Or we join them because we don’t want to be considered the “boring” one in the group. This pattern continues and all of a sudden, our fitness goal are nowhere in sight.
So what’s the real problem in why you’re not achieving your goals?
The problem is you.
“Whoa wait! Me!?” Yeah bro, it’s you.
This is a very tough pill to swallow. As human beings, it’s hard to take responsibility for our own actions. We always need a reason, or a person, to blame when things go wrong. But when you really break it down, you only have yourself to blame. Why? Because you’ve allowed them to hold you back. Which means secretly, you’re afraid of the changes you’re making too and don’t know what to do.
So now that we know the real reason, what do we do?
How do we solve this?
We start by saying NO!
Seriously – say no to the things that don’t align with your goal. This is also tough thing to do because we want to be there for the people we love. When you encounter someone or something that guides you off course, just take a second to evaluate it. If you know that going out for a drink will hinder your fitness growth, then don’t go. If you rather spend time at the gym then out partying, go to the gym.
Obviously this is easier said then done and will take lots of practice. This will also upset a few people because in actuality, they are not ready for the changes you’re making. If that’s the case, don’t be afraid to sit down with them and have a talk. Tell them your goals! Tell them how important your goal is to you, and if they love you – they will support you 100%!
How do you deal with people who try to hold you back from success? Leave a comment below and let me know. Also if you like this post, make sure you share it with friends and family.
Til next time,